If you have been following me on Instagram @blindintuition you would be aware that Cameron, Archer and I are expecting another Critter Hocking in November. I haven’t been too oversharing because we have had so many unknowns which we could only get answers for as the pregnancy has progressed. Now that we have most of our questions answered, we can cautiously relax and try and enjoy the last trimester of the pregnancy… Well try to as most of us really know how glamorous pregnancy is…Not!
We have just dawned on 28 weeks. Our baby critter which I have nicknamed Goose is a very healthy and active bub. There is lots of kicking going on at night when I am trying to go to sleep, but I secretly love it and the reassurance that he is going strong. The kicking in the middle of the night by our toddler Archer is a different story. That is a post for another day. Goose is measuring ahead and, in the 95th percentile in fact. This isn’t out of the norm for our family though. Both the Hocking and the Gregg side brewed big baby boys.
Mum is feeling huge. Like a beached whale. I don’t mean that I am worried about my weight or how I look. It is just the feeling that my organs are all squished up, I am becoming a bit more breathless and slowing down a bit. All my rings have come off my fingers and I am starting to retain some fluid. I remember after I had Archer, the fluid all went to the bottom of my legs and they blew up like tree trunks, so I am expecting the same thing again. There is nothing I can do about that other than concentrate on the things I can control like eating a well balanced diet, exercising moderately, getting plenty of rest and drinking lots of water. Easier said than done and I am not perfect. I have smashed some bags of chips secretly in the pantry and maybe some chocolate to. I don’t go out and buy these things to have in the pantry because I know I will smash them. However at times they have turned up in the pantry courtesy of my husband or when my dad comes to visit. I try as much as I can.
Archer still has no idea that he is getting a little brother. He is only Two. He points to my belly and says ‘baby’, but that is only because we taught him to. If you ask him where his baby is, he will point to his belly. If he is around a new born, he will say “baby” and try to poke their eyes out or pick their nose. I think once the baby is here he will well and truly know. It will be interesting to see how he reacts to not having his mum or dad all to himself.
Well, I am well and truly nesting. I am cleaning out cupboards and doing bulk cook ups to fill our freezer for when the baby comes. I actually feel great about all this and I am functioning around the home as a blind parent better than I ever have because everything has a spot and is neat and tidy. It is amazing what a bit of organisation can do to make your day easier blind or not. You can read about some of my tips for organisation here. We don’t have to buy too much for this baby. Some of Archer’s clothes are a bit obselete because they are born in different seasons or they are that stained from all Archer’s spew. After doing a bit of a swap with a friend, we have enough to make do. I am trying to keep my I out for bright clothes to make it easier for me to see where the baby is and to help hide the spew stains. I actually think less is more and can get a bit overwhelmed having too many clothes with my lack of vision. This goes for myself too.
The nursery is almost ready. We have created a safari theme with wall stickers that we just got off ebay. My dad has put Archer’s old cot together and a little cube storage unit. Other than that, we are just waiting for our little one to brew and join us.
Here are some pictures of the nursery. It is coming together really well and is almost finished. We were really lucky that our house is all painted in classic colours like greys and whites, so will go with anything. It means that if we want to change the theme we can do so easily. The wall stickers are removable which is handy too.
Things I have been asked…
Have you been getting any cravings?
Not really since first trimester when all I could really keep down was orange or apple juice. If anything I am probably eating more fruit like apples and oranges.
How are you feeling?
Mentally, some days are really good and others are not. This is all post trauma related which I have gone into more depth in 2 Years Blind and will be dedicating a post to soon. I am managing this through just talking to my friends, light exercise and taking time out to myself. I have just got myself a personal trainer who comes once a week to do a light pregnancy exercise program which I think will do me the world of good for my endorphins. Physically I am doing ok. My hips are unstable and are at times giving me a lot of grief, but it is only short term. I had the same thing with Archer and the pain went pretty much as soon as he was born.
Have you chosen a name?
No… Cameron and I can’t agree on anything. End of conversation. Anyway it will be a Secret if we do agree on one, so don’t ask. No special privileges if yoy are friends or family either. Just be patient and wait and see.
How do you think you will cope with two children and lack of vision?
Just like I did when I became a mum for the first time. You learn and grow together. As a parent, you make mistakes and learn from them. It won’t be easy, but parenting isn’t easy. There are many parents who are blind or have low vision with one or more children and are doing fantastically. If anything I will teach my children and be a positive role model for resilience, integrity, to stand up for what they want and feel passionate about, patience and inclusive to a diverse range of people. Everyone has a story and something to give to the world.
I am not alone in this adventure. I have a supportive husband in Cameron who is pretty hands on and I think people forget that it is not all about me. Blind or not Cam and I are a team and just make it work.
You can read more about my pregnancy adventures here.
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